“Since I broke up like 2 months ago, I was determined to move on and continue with my life, even if I felt like I was sad and wanted to listen to agonizing music all day. I decided that this is not going to affect my days, that I wasn’t going to eat my sadness away and gain weight, that I was not going to neglect my studies. I wanted to be more social too, so I set some goals and I’m determined to achieve them all. One of them was to join Donner Sang Compter, and I did. I didn’t let my break-up sadness get in the way of my goals, so I’m certainly not going to let coronavirus and this quarantine get in the way either. I do believe that this is indeed a hard time, but you are able to make it even harder on yourself without realizing. I’m not going to sit and dwell on the fact that Covid-19 is out there – I’m doing the things that I wished I could do before but never had enough time for. Okay, we’re home, but I’m pretty sure everyone had something to do but university was taking all their time and was their main priority. It still is, of course, but it’s different now that we’re not physically at university. Now, it’s easier to divide and manage our time.” – Lamisse Abboud, 20.
I think that we sometimes give in to our emotions; our days can easily be negatively affected because of how we feel. Some days we wake up and get the impression that we are just not ready to face the day, or that we don’t want to give attention to the massive workload waiting for us at the study table… and guess what? It’s okay.
We all have days like these when we just don’t want to try; we want to stay in bed sleeping or listening to music all the time. I feel like this is something that parents sometimes don’t understand: why would my son not want to get up and get dressed today? Why doesn’t my daughter want to attend her online lecture? Absurd.
And sometimes, it’s not easy at all to let go of past events that have deeply affected us – like a breakup for example. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that we are granted the ability to feel and experience emotions; we are lucky enough to know what love is, what happiness is, what sadness is, what ‘everglow‘ is, et cetera.
Lamisse found within herself the determination to move forward regardless of the circumstances, and I encourage you to find it too. It’s difficult, I know, but it’s worth a try. Remember that doesn’t necessarily happen overnight. It’s okay if you wake up tomorrow or the day after still lacking the strength and motivation to face the day. Try to do one activity a day; read a few pages from that book that was left out on the shelf, take a walk outside while the sun is up, work out for only 20 minutes, organize your playlists, study one chapter…
Be proud of yourself for accomplishing one activity a day this week, maybe two activities a day next week, several activities a day the week after… Point is, take it slow and easy on yourself. It’s a tough period, but you’ll make it through. I promise.
Wishing you all a good and safe quarantine. Stay home, stay strong, and [try your best to] stay positive.
All the love. x
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